Top 10 Most Common Marriage Problems
It is no secret that marriage is but a bed of roses. Every couple is bound to face hurdles that will put their love and faith to the test. Read on to find out the common problems encountered by married couples and how to deal with them.
Finances / Money
Whether you’re a newlywed or an old couple, financial issues can put a strain your relationship especially when there is lack of financial stability. This often occurs when one or both parties work but still find that their earnings aren’t enough to make ends meet.
It’s important to develop ways on how you can manage finances as a team. Talk together about your goals (bills, college plans, insurance, travel plans) and review them at a regular basis. It’s a good idea to open a joint bank account where you can both put 90% of your earnings for the fulfillment of your goals and 10% as your personal money which you can use any way you want.
Loss of intimacy
It’s more common than most people think. In the beginning, you probably couldn’t get your hands off of each other but after awhile, the fire begins to die out. Marriage needs work in order to reignite the flame, you will have to make an effort to get involved in the relationship. Bring the thrill back to your marriage by exchanging naughty notes and going out on dates with just the two of you.
Lack of communication
A successful marriage requires communication. The moment you stop communicating is when marriage will start to crumble down. Don’t let yourself to become too busy with work, family or other responsibilities. At the end of each day, make it a habit to talk to each other. Ask about what happened during the day, their best/worst moments. This is a great way to reconnect to really find out what’s going in on in your partner’s life.
In this day and age where it’s typical for both husbands and wife to be employed, division of housework is very important. Organizing your respective jobs will save you from dangerous silent resentments. Start by listing jobs down and agreeing on who does what. Be creative and take your preferences into account.
For any relationship to thrive, trust is necessary. Are there things that cause you not to trust your spouse? Or did you have past issues that is preventing you from trusting others?
Trust issues can be overcome with effective communication. Couples must be clear with each other what things could break that trust. Remember to be consistent and on time. Don’t make promises you can’t keep. Call when you’re running late and respect your partner’s boundaries.
If you’re recovering from infidelity, allow time to rebuild trust. As long as you keep the commitments you have for each other, eventually, you will regain the trust you once had.
People say it is not often to find a person who is lucky to have close and supportive in-laws. Most of the time, they are opposite of such. Some in-laws get themselves too involved with your family decisions that it is difficult to find your place.
Work it out between yourselves what advice you will accept from your in-laws. Use your good judgement. They mean well but at the end of the day, this is your family and you need to use the best advice most compatible to your generation.
Daily stress is not considered a marriage problem but it can worsen existing issues. As with financial stress, daily stress can suck out your patience and optimism leaving you with less to give to one another emotionally.
Find time to share moments of intimacy with your spouse, no matter how busy your days may be. Make date nights a regular thing so you have something to look forward to each week. You will find that by simply taking some time out, you’ll feel rejuvenated and more able to manage stress levels of daily living.
Bad habits such as laziness, critical attitude and poor anger management can creep into a relationship and potentially destroy it. The good news is that most of them can be worked on. Even if only one of you is consciously trying to change, any change can alter the dynamic relationship, which can yield positive results.
Every person has their own way of doing things. We view things differently because of our different society, orientations, skills, knowledge, family background etc. If not managed properly, this can lead to major arguments and even divorce. Hence, keep an open mind. Winning isn’t everything. Being right isn’t either.
We should happily enjoy our partner’s differences and respect them. When we do, we find a new level of satisfaction in the love we share.
Before you even get married, you must be on the same page about whether you are going to have children or not and when to start trying for a family. Sometimes, methods of raising children also vary. It’s important to always communicate with your partner how you will handle each situation and how to divide duties concerning the children.